When I started Here with Her I wasn’t exactly clear on what it could become. I knew I wanted to empower women to get outside and feel the freedom I do in nature. As I moved toward this calling I put my faith in a higher power to guide me. I wrote this prayer:
“I know you put this dream in my heart because you want me to see it through. I will walk in your path as you guide my steps. I turn my fears over to you and trust in your plan. Thy will be done.”
The path started to become clear when I posted this picture (above) from The Moanalua Valley Trail in Hawaii. I wanted to share this moment of pure elation on my hike through the most breathtaking beauty I’ve ever seen. For the first time in my life I didn’t care that I was about to post a photo with my hair totally out of place, my crow’s feet showing, no fake lashes, no eyeliner. I wanted to share my experience, my accomplishment and my bravery on this hike.
Up until last year, I placed my value on my appearance. I thought what my body looked like was more important that what it was capable of. I needed my physique to be perfect, my hair to be glamorous, my lashes to be long and my skin to be free of any imperfections. It turns out, I didn’t actually care about any of these things to please myself, I cared about them to please others.
I spent my entire adulthood in the TV industry where I had to endure cruel opinions about my appearance. I felt ashamed about the way I looked. I was born with light blonde hair that grew to my hips by middle school. I got curves at 14 years old. I was told so many times during my career that my hair was too blonde for TV. I looked too much like Barbie. My boobs were too big and needed to become less of a distraction. I endured the humiliating experience of having a consultant take me BRA SHOPPING. It was reinforced for many years that no one would take me seriously because of my appearance.
Do you know how much that hurts? To be told your appearance is going to hold you back regardless of your effort, skills or intelligence?
Somehow public judgment of my appearance was worth more than my talent.
Unfortunately, I believe most women understand this pain. For one reason or another, the way we look seems to somehow be used against us at some point in our lives. For some it’s because we are a so-called Barbie, others are considered overweight, some are judged for the color of their skin, maybe they’re considered masculine. I mean, we’re too skinny, not skinny enough, we’re too old, we’re not old enough… BLAH BLAH BLAH!
The pressure for me to change and look another way doesn’t align with who I really am. Succumbing to judgment does not align with who any of us really are.
When we get outdoors there is no judgment. Nature doesn’t think I’m too blonde. Nature doesn’t get offended by my curves. Nature doesn’t mind my wrinkles. Nature doesn’t care that I bite my nails and have an autoimmune disease causing my hands to peel.
Nature only cares that I show up for her.
The person I am out here… this is who I really am. Out here, I don’t think about what I look like. Out here I just think about how I feel. Out here I don’t think about my legs having cellulite, scars and stretch marks. I think about where my legs can take me. Out here I don’t worry about judgments. In fact, I don’t worry about anything.
I thank God for giving me a love for the outdoors. The outdoors saved me from a superficial life. The outdoors saved me from this trap of trying to be perfect. The outdoors saved me from the prison of public opinion.
From here forward, I am dedicating this brand to not only sharing beautiful outdoor destinations, but also to sharing stories of how nature has helped women defy society’s insane expectations of them.
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You can get quite cozy in Cottonwood at The Tavern Hotel. I enjoyed this stay so much I am already looking forward to our next visit! Every detail made me feel comfortable from the patio furniture to the luxury shower.
This darling boutique hotel is just a 90-minute drive north of Phoenix. The building, just like the city itself, is historic and charming. The historic building was a grocery store in 1925. It was preserved and transformed into a hotel packed with luxury accommodations in 2011.
Now the hotel offers 41 gorgeous guestrooms, two plush penthouses and even an entire cottage!
Our stay landed us at the cottage and we couldn’t get enough of our accommodations. We had our own huge seating area with comfortable adirondack chairs all to us. When we stepped inside, we couldn’t believe the amount of space we could have all to ourselves.
The cottage includes:
-A full living room with a leather sectional couch
-A full dining area that could seat seven to ten people
-A full kitchen and bar counter that seats four (stove, microwave, huge fridge, pots + pans, too!)
-Two bedrooms that sleep two people (with the comfiest pillows ever!). Each bedroom has a TV and a large closet
-A bathroom with a large counter, double sinks and a gorgeous shower (seriously, the tiles are insanely pretty)
The cottage would be perfect for a family adventure, a girls’ trip or a bachelor/bachelorette weekend. The two bedrooms have very unique pieces of furniture and accent pieces. Some of the items were so cute, I was checking for tags to see if I could figure out where to buy them! (Does anyone else do this?!) I especially loved the metal yellow chair pictured below.
The kitchen is spacious and bright with a white backsplash, hardwood floors like the rest of the cottage, and stainless steel appliances. There’s even a cute tea kettle!
Beyond the cottage, we enjoyed the beautiful lobby and outdoor areas. From wall art, to the landscape and seating areas near fireplaces, we couldn’t get enough of the property. By the way, all of the cute decor makes this property INCREDIBLY instagrammable. 🙂
When we did pull ourselves away from the hotel, we were pleasantly surprised by how much there is to do in Cottonwood! The first thing I recommend you do is head to The Tavern Grille because upon check in, the hotel hooks you up with complimentary cocktails at the Grille!
We enjoyed going in the shops right outside our hotel. There was art, apparel, southwestern decor and unique southwestern souvenirs to be found in Old Town.
If you want to do some more exploring, just hop in the car for a short drive to Jerome. Jerome is known for paranormal activity to most, but for me I know it for the incredible shopping and extremely unusual sights including creepy old buildings and fascinating artwork.
The shops here are just different. I always find something I have to buy but wouldn’t have known it even existed without a trip to Jerome. This trip that something was a book on colorstrology. I also fell in love with kaleidoscopes at one particular shop called Nelly Bly. I did not buy one but I sure wish I did. As they say, “nothing haunts us like the things we didn’t buy.”
There are also some incredible views so take advantage of the elevation!
We finished our night with pizza and beer at Pizzeria Bocce. This spot has a great selection of local beer (the key to my heart). I tried the Grand Canyon Brewery pilsner and it did not disappoint. I think a crisp, golden beer is always perfect with pizza. You have to get the Pesto Chicken pizza. The combo of pesto and ricotta cheese with chicken and mozzarella was perfection!
Before heading out of town, we redeemed our breakfast vouchers from the hotel at Crema Craft Kitchen+Bar. Our breakfast was divine but the real treat here is their insane bloody mary served with a hard boiled egg and bacon on top. What a way to start the day!
For videos from my trip, head to my Instagram page and watch the “Cottonwood” highlight.
I hope you can experience Cottonwood and this lovely hotel soon!
To make a reservation at The Tavern Hotel: https://bookings.frontdeskanywhere.net/bookings/#account/1ZN170511C
To shop my wardrobe: shoppriceless.com
If you haven’t seen Phoenix from South Mountain, you’re missing out!
Hiking the Holbert Trail on South Mountain will take you to an Arizona treasure known as Dobbins Lookout. The structure on top was built in the 1930’s and it offers an incredible place to relax and enjoy the highest point you can access on South Mountain.
Holbert is a 4 mile out and back hike with an elevation gain of approximately 1,000 feet. This hike is rated hard but I would encourage you to give it a try even if you typically stick with the easy and moderate levels. I saw numerous families and puppies who were owning this trail! The elevation gain feels very gradual as you make your way to the top.
The terrain is rocky but you never have to use all fours to get through the rocks. There is a lot of loose gravel so proper hiking shoes are a must. I am obsessed with my new Merrell kicks. You can shop them here. They’re on MAJOR SALE!
I have not spent a whole lot of time on South Mountain and I enjoyed seeing the city of Phoenix from this point of view! When you get to the top and arrive at Dobbins lookout, be sure to check out the structure and snap some pics. My friend Hailey and I sat on a bench to take in the view, eat some snacks and bond with the local squirrel friends.
What I love most about Dobbins lookout is even people with limited mobility can access it. You can skip the hike and simply drive up! I live with a bladder disease called Interstitial Cystitis and for years a hike like this was physically impossible for me. I love when I get to post about a fantastic viewpoint that is accessible to everyone! No one should have to miss out on this scenery.
Address to lookout: North Summit Road, South Mountain Park, Phoenix, AZ 85042
Address to Holbert Trail: 10919 South Central Avenue, Phoenix, AZ 85042
Permits: None required
Hours: 5 a.m. to 7 p.m.
Dogs: Allowed on leash
Just south of Phoenix is a pristine national park covered in a sea of saguaros.
It’s a hiker’s paradise with a wide range of trail options. Instead of seeking a strenuous hike like usual, I opted to hike at a slower pace and soak in the serenity.
The drive from Phoenix took us two hours. After paying the $15.00 park fee, we went on a scenic 3.5 mile drive through Saguaro West. Acura of Peoria hooked me up with their gorgeous MDX SUV so we had a smooth ride on the otherwise bumpy road. While an SUV is highly recommended, there were a number of people finding their way through the park with small cars.
We stopped at the Valley View Outlook Trail. This trail is super easy but comes with a heck of a view. It’s only .08 miles out and back. This is friendly for the whole family regardless of their skill level….. or the length of their attention span. It’s only a 36 foot elevation gain!
My sister and I brought our niece and her best friend. They’re 11 years old and enjoyed the hike. They even stopped at the top to take in the sights while commenting on the beauty and the quietness of the spot. At one point they even pulled out one of our blankets and laid down to take a nap. Talk about relaxation!!
While the Valley View Outlook Trail is short and sweet, near the start/end point it does connect to another short hike called the Wild Dog Trail. If you do both you’ll get two different views, with a total of hiking 1.7 miles and spending about an hour to 90 minutes walking with minimal elevation gains. The Wild Dog Trail has an elevation gain of 177 feet. Ironically, dogs are not allowed on these trails.
Our favorite part of this trip was setting up camp in the back of the MDX and just staring at the saguaros blanketing the desert. I grew up in Arizona and I’ve seen a lot of cacti but there’s something extra special about the views at Saguaro National Park.
While I only had time to explore the west side of the park, I plan to go back and check out the eastern region as soon as I can!
TIP: If you go between April and June you can catch the saguaro flowers in bloom!
BE AWARE: Temperatures can reach 100+ degrees in the summer. The monsoon brings the threat of dangerous thunderstorms, blowing dust and flash flooding from June 15th to September 30th.
Address to Visitor’s Center (West side of park): 2700 N. Kinney Road, Tucson, Arizona 85743
Permit Price: $15 per vehicle (credit cards accepted)
Bring: sunblock, water, snacks, hat, sunglasses, a jacket because temps drop quickly in the desert.
For those of you wanting more info on my ride, the MDX is a 3-row luxury SUV that drives like a dream! While it is a full-size SUV, it’s easy to handle and doesn’t feel bulky like some other big SUVs. The car has beautiful leather seats, a sleek interior, tons of space for friends plus all the gear I needed for our journey. The MDX makes me feel safe and comfortable! Here are my absolute favorite features on the Acura MDX and why I believe it’s the perfect vehicle for a road trip:
- Adaptive Cruise Control. This feature is incredible. I couldn’t believe how smart this car is! All I had to do was set the cruise control and the car did the rest. If traffic slows, the brakes automatically apply to keep you a safe distance from the cars around you. In stop-and-go traffic it even braked when cars in front of me stopped then accelerated on its own when traffic starting flowing again! This is a dream feature for a road trip!
- Lane keep assist: If for any reason you start to drift from your lane, you will be automatically guided back to safety. You don’t lose your ability to steer, but if you don’t signal and move out of your lane it will gently steer you on course without jerking the car. It’s amazing! When you do signal, it checks for other cars in your blind spot. A light will come on inside the car near your side mirror if there is another vehicle and you’ll also hear a beep so you know not to move into the other lane yet.
- Collision Mitigation Braking System: The MDX has technology that uses a radar system and cameras to figure out the speed and distance of cars or objects in the vicinity. If it detects that you got cut off, traffic is slowing or there is anything you could hit it will apply the brakes for you. At this point it also starts alerting you that there is threat of a crash so that you are paying attention and take the steps necessary to avoid an accident!
To take it for a test drive, call my friends at Acura of Peoria: (623) 385-1478 or visit at 9190 W Bell Rd, Peoria, AZ 85382.
For more incredible pics from my photographer Zach, check him out on Instagram @Stackary
It will only take you 1,048 steps to get this view. Here’s the catch, those steps are going to be steep. Really steep.
Koko Head Crater Trail gives you an 800+ foot elevation gain in less than a mile. A guy on our hike pulled out a level app and measured the grade at 81 degrees. Godspeed.
This was honestly one of the toughest physical challenges of my life and you all know I am an avid hiker. It was just so continuous, so daunting. It was also hot and humid as heck! I took a handful of breaks and made it to the top in about 30-40 minutes.
The tricky thing is the steps are pretty sketchy. They’re actually railroad ties that create this staircase. They’re what’s left of the railway the military built to send supplies to the top of Koko Head. Up there they had lookouts set up during World War II. The history buffs will definitely enjoy checking out the structures that are still intact.
When you make it to the top of the steps you could go left or right but you will immediately see those old pillbox bunker buildings. We first went right so we could check out amazing views of the ocean and Hanauma Bay. If you head to the left you’ll get incredible views of the whole island and Waikiki.
This is a very straightforward little adventure. Here’s a video I made on the journey.
Your knees will not be happy on the way down. There is one particular section that’s even trickier while descending. There is a part where the staircase isn’t just laying on dirt. It’s actually dozens of feet above ground so if you fall, you’re going to hurt yourself. I took my sweet time in that spot.
The most important things I can say about this hike are bring lots of water, take as many breaks as you need, and wear shoes with good traction. I would not recommended taking young children or small dogs on this hike.
Distance: 1.8 miles out and back
Address: 7604 Koko Head Park Rd, Honolulu, HI 96825
Parking: Free lot
Permits: None Required
You can do it!
This is Arizona destination is not to be missed! If you have visitors coming to see you in the Valley, you have got to take the two hour drive up to this spot and show off your scenic state!
Tonto Natural Bridge is an incredible natural display of beauty in Payson, AZ. It is believed to be the world’s largest natural travertine bridge. It’s beautifully formed by erosion and you can even walk beneath the bridge to explore the stunning scenery within. The bridge is 400 feet long, 183 feet high and 150 feet wide.
Underneath the bridge, you’ll experience the erosion in action as water drips down the sides and ceiling of the bridge. It actually seems like it’s raining. There are green plants breaking through the rock and thriving. It is truly magical.
I recommend taking the Pine Creek Trail which is a ½ mile scenic route to get under the bridge. If you like an adventurous trek this is for you! You’ll be climbing big boulders, stepping through river rock, and hearing the sound of a waterfall as you get closer and closer to the bridge.
You do not have to hike to the bridge. What I love is that a whole family could enjoy this scenery whether they are a little one in a stroller or an adult with limited mobility. This state park provides viewing areas that are just a short distance from the parking lot and have ramps. You can go to one of those areas and look down at the bridge!
Adult (14+): $7.00
Youth (7–13): $4.00
Child (0–6): FREE
To get here from Phoenix you can take Highway 87 all the way to USFS Road 583 and you’ll see the signs to enter the park. Stop in at the gift shop to buy your permits on site (you can’t get them online) and then you’re all set.
The parks opens at 9:00 a.m. and closes at 4:00 p.m. HOLIDAY HOURS: 9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. on Christmas Eve and CLOSED on Christmas.
Things to keep in mind:
- Dogs are allowed at the park but not on hiking trails.
- The gift shop does accept credit/ debit cards
- Travertine is very slippery so be careful underneath the bridge
When you see ‘Checking In’ before one of my blog entries, that’s mean this post will give you details on accommodations.
This time we’re talking about The Strawberry Inn in Strawberry, AZ. This boutique hotel is located near tons of hikes including the trails to Tonto Natural Bridge. It’s right off Highway 87 which is the main road through Strawberry-Pine.
The Strawberry Inn is unique in so many ways. It’s a non-hosted hotel meaning it’s a lot like an Air BnB. The day you are checking in, you will get a code to a lockbox emailed to you. That code will allow you to access the key to your room. You don’t have to talk to anyone at check in ,however, if something goes wrong there is a phone number in that email and in the rooms for a person to call if anything goes wrong.
Now let’s talk about the fun stuff. Each of the eight rooms at the Inn is decorated differently so each room has it’s own vibe. We’re talking farmhouse chic meets boho beauty. You’ll find comforting hues of grey, navy, white and beige and unique artwork in each room.
The beds are unbelievably comfortable and the comforter feels like you’re pulling a cloud over yourself. The sheets are so soft. It felt so good to get in this bad after a long day of driving of hiking.
The place is perfect for a romantic getaway and all rooms have one big bed, however, some rooms have pullout couches so you can bring the kids. Plus, the four bottom rooms are dog friendly.
When you make your reservation you can see each room and pick the one you want to stay in! You’ll also notice rates are surprisingly low for a boutique hotel. You get a lot of bang for your buck!
I enjoyed my stay so much and this hotel enhanced my experience in Rim Country. I loved that my stay had an authentic mountain feel…. But I had a comfy bed, a hot shower, a flat screen TV and wifi!
The entire Inn looks like it was made to be instagrammed. From the red barn doors, to the historic windmill and the lovable swings on the porch, you’ll find endless spots to snap a pic.
I absolutely loved The Strawberry Inn and I know you will too.
Not too far from Phoenix is a majestic place that looks like a scene straight out of a dream.
It’s called Fossil Creek. This is where you’ll find cool water, foliage and a waterfall within three hours of the Valley.
THIS IS IMPORTANT: You must have a permit to park and go to the trail BEFORE you get to the region if you are going between April 1st and October 1st. You have to reserve a parking spot and print two copies of your pass. You’ll keep one pass on you at all times and keep the other on your dashboard. Make your reservation here. On the left side of the page under location select “01 waterfall trailhead parking”. You must book in advance!!!
To get to the trail that takes you to the waterfall from Phoenix, plan for a 2 ½ hour ride if traffic is normal. You’ll want to head north on the I-17 until you get to the 260 East through Camp Verde. Once you’re on the 260 East you’ll look for Fossil Creek Road between Mile Marker 228 and 229. Turn right onto Fossil Creek. There will be a fork in the road. Select the path on the right.
Warning: once you are on Fossil Creek Road you have a 14 mile drive on a dirt road that is VERY bumpy. I highly recommend doing this drive in a truck or SUV. Bring snacks and don’t rely on cell service for music streaming because you will not have any reception. This ride feels like it lasts FOREVER.
Once you’ve driven almost the full 14 miles, you will have to stop for the ranger to sign off on you permit. Then, keep going to the end of the path and you’ll be at the parking lot for the trailhead.
The trail is only about ½ a mile in and ½ mile out and it’s a pretty simple path. The kids should be able to handle it and the waterfall is really a great family experience.
Keep in mind: you can swim in fossil creek so wear your swimsuit! Doggos are welcome on this trail as long as they are on a leash. Flash flooding is a concern especially during the Monsoon so check the forecast! There are restrooms for you to use in the parking lot for the waterfall trailhead.
- Recommended items to pack:
- Plastic baggy to protect your phone near the water
- Snacks and drinks to enjoy while at the waterfall
I am going to admit something to you. I don’t like planning and I actually enjoy NOT knowing what I’m getting myself into. So when I went to Zion National Park I hardly did any research of the trails. When I have the time, I like to get to a destination and just do what I feel guided to.
Everyone kept talking about Angel’s Landing. They say the summit is so high ‘only an angel could land there’. There are thousand foot drop offs on each side and you have to hold onto chains to safely make it to the top. Well, that sounded terrifying so of course I had to try it.
The view at the beginning of the path is breathtaking. I stopped to take it all in and I recommend you do as well. You’ll never forget this spot.
This is a 4.4 miles hike in and out with a 2073 foot elevation gain. The hike is rated at the difficult level but I felt it was physically not too hard, but mentally it was a challenge because I’m a little afraid of heights!
The first mile or so is very steep but it’s a paved path. The payoff is great too. After the first major climb, you’ll arrive at refrigerator canyon. It’s shady, cooler path in between walls of rock. The incline calms at that point and you can just relax before the next great challenge.
Walter’s Wiggles will rock your world! We’re talking about a series of 21 steep switchbacks that will have you panting. Okay maybe you’re more in shape and you that’s not true for you but I was definitely panting!
Tip: There are restrooms for emergencies right after Walter’s Wiggles. I have a bladder disease called Interstitial Cystitis so these restrooms saved me!
After Walter’s Wiggles, you’ll come to the first set of chains. That stint is short lived before you arrive at a great lookout called Scout’s Landing. Many people stop there trek here. You’re pretty high up, the view is fantastic… but you can get an even better experience if you dare to face the danger that lies past Scout’s Lookout.
The last ¼ of the hike is the tricky part. The path is narrow and if you’re like me you will be holding onto the chains! The path can get crowded so you may need to make room for someone coming down the trail, which was the scariest part for me.
While terrifying at times, this part of the hike is THRILLING! I forgot I was afraid of heights!
The view at the top really is heavenly. There is a lot of space to spread out, snap pics and enjoy snacks. It’s truly astonishing how high up you are and how much beauty surrounds you in every direction.
For me, the scariest part was coming down the trail because I was forced to look into the canyon.
I highly recommend you at least try this hike if you head to Zion. If you’re nervous, make your goal to reach Scout’s Landing and see how you feel before venturing further. It’s worth testing your limits!